If you read what everybody else reads, you can only think what everybody else thinks.
~ Haruki Murakami
If you came here looking for neat pre-packaged answers, then you’ve come to the wrong place. Seduction requires study, a very small amount of expense and boots on the ground; it’s not all available from websites, seminars and books. You can replace some of the boot time by studying, but there is a minimum you must do. You will not become a Seductionist by sitting in a classroom, joining a seduction club or signing into a seduction message board.
Now, you may be thinking that we have chosen to be unforgiving bastards, but when was anything worthwhile achieved without effort? Any neophyte who swims into view, asks, gets, and departs has learned nothing about the realities of carrying out a seduction in a professional manner. People learn nothing by being told – they learn when they do it.
Next, should you disbelieve that Seduction is about being a Lover rather than a Fighter, then you should first click here, followed by here. This said, if you still wish to begin remedial education in the craft of seduction, then the following list will give you some pointers, however do remember you will only see results with practice.
Before you begin
Some books to help you avoid being taken in by Flimflam artists
- Michael Shermer, Why People Believe Weird Things: Pseudoscience, Superstition, and Other Confusions of Our Time
- Alfred McClung Lee and Elizabeth Briant Lee, Fine Art of Propaganda
- Martin Gardner, Fads and Fallacies in the Name of Science
In the event of mild Anxiety / Social phobias / Lack of confidence etc.
Many people have found that therapies such as NLP have provided a cure
- Steve Andreas and Charles Faulkner, NLP: The New Technology of Achievement
More advanced NLP and Therapy
For more serious issues. Some people have also used advanced NLP in seduction
- David Gordon and Maribeth Meyers-Anderson, Phoenix: Therapeutic Patterns of Milton H. Erickson
- Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth
- Frank Farrelly and Jeff M. Brandsma, Provocative Therapy
History / Autobiography
Where better to begin than by learning from the past?
- Ian Kelly, Casanova: Actor, Lover, Priest, Spy
- Frank Harris, My Life and Loves (Edited, John F. Gallagher)
- Iceberg Slim (Robert Beck), Pimp: The Story of My Life
- Russell Miller, Bunny: The Real Story of Playboy
Easy-to-understand post-primers
Everyone has to start somewhere
- Tony Clink compiled ‘The Lay Guide’ from material posted to the alt.seduction.fast newsgroup. In 2000, he then decided that money was more important than sex, and started to sell this material. The last free update (which is almost the same as the published version) is still available here.
Sociobiology
Sociobiology attempts to answer “why?” questions about sex
- David P. Barash & Judith Eve Lipton, The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People
- Randy Thornhill & Craig T. Palmer, A Natural History of Rape: Biological Bases of Sexual Coercion
Strategy and Lying
You need to start with good strategy, and it helps to be able to detect liars
- Niccolo Machiavelli, Machiavelli: The Prince (Edited, Quentin Skinner)
- R. L. Wing, The Art of Strategy: A New Translation of Sun Tzu’s “The Art of War”
- Tiha von Ghyczy, Bolko von Oetinger, Christopher Bassford, Clausewitz on Strategy: Inspiration & Insight from a Master Strategist
- Aldert Vrij, Detecting Lies and Deceit
Persuasion
You will need to be persuasive with people you meet
- Karen Pryor, Don’t Shoot the Dog!: The New Art of Teaching and Training
- Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: Science and Practice
- Nicholas Capaldi and Miles Smit, The Art of Deception
- Richard Bandler and John La Valle, Persuasion Engineering
Fantasies and Emotions
If you can help people fulfil their fantasies, they will be very grateful
- Nancy Friday, My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies
- Nancy Friday, Forbidden Flowers: More Women’s Sexual Fantasies
Hypnosis and Suggestion
A virtual panacea: deal with issues, become a Raconteur, improve sex, notice suggestibility etc.
- Steven Heller, Monsters and Magical Sticks: Or, There’s No Such Thing as Hypnosis
- William Hudson O’Hanlon, Taproots: Underlying Principles of Milton Erickson’s Therapy and Hypnosis
- Sidney Rosen, My Voice Will Go With You: The Teaching Tales of Milton H. Erickson, M.D.
- John Grinder & Richard Bandler, Trance-Formations: Neuro-Linguistic Programming & the Structure of Hypnosis
- Graham F. Wagstaff, Hypnosis, Compliance and Belief
Building your relationship
Things to talk about, and stuff to do
- Your countries Newspapers
- Your local area “What’s on” guide
- A nearby lingerie shop
- Learn to give a good massage
Advanced Sex (If you were expecting a section on ‘Basic sex’, this is the best we can offer.)
Sex is fun, but it’s good to experiment
- Gay Talese, Thy Neighbor’s Wife
- Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt, The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
- Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt, When Someone You Love Is Kinky
- Frater U:.D:., Secrets of Western Sex Magic: Magical Energy & Gnostic Trance
Alternative and taboo sex
It’s only about 30 years since The “Joy of Sex” was a revolution, so much is still new here
- Masturbation / Sex Toys – Lets Masturbate
- BDSM / Spanking – Wipipedia
- Anal sex – A Guide To Anal Play
- Swinging – Kasidie
- Fetishes – Fetish Link
Films with a seduction theme
Mostly for fun, rather than being particularly educational
- Bitter Moon (1992), Roman Polanski
- Dangerous Liaisons (1988), Stephen Frears
- Def Jam’s How to Be a Player (1997), Lionel C. Martin
- Don Juan DeMarco (1995), Jeremy Leven
- L’Homme qui aimait les femmes (1977), François Truffaut
- Nine 1/2 Weeks (1986), Adrian Lyne
- Roger Dodger (2002), Dylan Kidd
- Swingers (1996), Doug Liman
- The Butterfly Collector (1965), William Wyler
- The Graduate (1967), Mike Nichols
- The Unbearable Lightness of Being (1988), Philip Kaufman
- Wedding Crashers (2005), David Dobkin
- Whipped (2000), Peter M. Cohen
