Skin is always in and good skin is one of the most attractive features a woman can have, so concentrate your time taking care of your skin, and you’ll need less make-up to look gorgeous. The most attractive skin is measured by its smoothness, evenness of tone and pore size.

Here’s how to get it! Make sure all products in your cabinet match your skins ever changing condition – your face soap especially. So take extra special care of dry skin with a quality creamy cleanser, and use moisturizer with sun block to combat the drying effects of the sun. If you have normal to oily use a neutral pH product, but not one that leaves your face tight. You may be trying to get back at your oily skin, and enjoy the feeling of a perfectly oil free skin for a few moments, but your face will not appreciate the over zealousness, and the oil will return with a vengeance thanks to a reaction by sebaceous glands.

At night use a quality moisturizer with beta or alpha hydroxy to reveal fresher, newer skin underneath, and during the day use one with a UVA guard. These products will smooth out the skin, and even reduce the appearance of pores over time.

The only other thing you can do to reduce the appearance of your pore size is to use a pore strip. The effects last about 2 days, and Biore’s strips are the first and best on the market. That’s it. Keep this routine consistent and you’ll have the sexiest skin around.

Okay, so now you’re ready to open up your make-up bag and get down to business. Wait. Before you continue on with your regular routine, rethink the point and start from scratch.

We all use makeup to be more appealing, so make sure your routine does exactly that. First rule of thumb is to know that your face is beautiful just the way it is. If you know this, you are at less danger of using make-up to hide, and using it to enhance instead. There always comes the point where any more is pointless, and then a hindrance.

A good rule of thumb is to remember that just because it’s on the shelf, doesn’t mean it has to be on your face. So let’s start with a bare face and work our way up from there.

Foundation can be a great help to enhance the look of your skin, the sexiest organ there is. But it is also the trickiest makeup you own, and can easily foil your plans for great looking skin. About 45% of women would be greatly benefited by a different colour foundation then the one they currently wear. Please don’t let this be you. You spend countless hours picking out lipstick and eye colour shades, but this time would be much better spent picking out the perfect colour for your foundation.

Most over the counter make-up tends to be too pink for your face, but without proper lighting, you will be unable to tell. Remember, the whole point is to even out the tone, not paint over it with a new colour! Go on a mission to get the perfect colour for your face.

Rule #1: Don’t trust the woman at the cosmetics counter. She’ll get you the closest shade they have, but it may not be the one for you. Be a stickler. Let the woman know you only want the perfect match. She’ll understand, because she would NEVER settle for less than perfect for herself. Try the foundation on, walk out of the store with a compact into the sunlight and into the shade and see what happens. If it’s not perfect – Don’t buy it. If you bought it, don’t wear it. Go for the sheerest texture you feel comfortable with.

Rule #2: Focus on 2-3 things that actually make you more attractive. Remember that too much make-up is often a pet peeve for men, and that goes double when it applies to the girl on their arm.

The first thing a man notices on a woman’s face is her eyes, the second is her mouth. This makes it easy. If you only wear 2 pieces of make-up, make it lipstick/gloss and mascara.

Lips are an erogenous zone: When his eyes are focused on your mouth, he is focused on an erogenous zone and will react accordingly. Men are most attracted to lipstick colours in the red family; it simulates the sympathetic nervous systems reaction to sexual readiness. Read: A sexy mouth. Alright! Forget trend/cute colours, like hot pink, orange, gold or purple. They might get your man’s attention, but he won’t be thinking of kissing those lips. Use a lip liner in a close match to lipstick to smooth the shape of your lips (symmetry is attractive to the human eye and will draw his eyes to your sexy pout).

The eyes have it: We use them to communicate in countless ways including meet, greet, flirt, tell who we are, react and explain – and according to a study by UCLA, 65% of men say they are the first thing they notice about a woman. You want him to focus on your eyes, so that he is looking into you, not over you, and here he will meet the woman he will get to know. Don’t let your make-up be a hindrance here. It is a mistake. Common mistakes are too much eyeliner, non-neutral colours (green, blue, purple, orange).

Widen your eyes with a light colour on the brow and close to the lash, and a neutral colour in the middle.

Use quality soft-black or black mascara and use no more than 2 coats. Clumpy mascara is never attractive. This will draw attention to the eyes, and let you bat like a pro!

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Seduction mistakes are easy to make when you really like someone and you find yourself trying to get them closer to you. Here are some all too common mistakes that some of us women make while trying to seduce a man. Do any of these sound a little too familiar? Forcing Intimacy in these ways will backfire: Try these tactics and you’re certain to lose the one you love.

Seduction Mistake #1: Expecting the relationship to solve your problems: Your life is in a lull, nothing brings you pleasure or excitement, and every new day seems as dull as the last. The only thing going for you is the guy you’re seeing or dating, and so you put all your energy, time and passion into pleasing him. After all, at least he’ll appreciate the attention, right? Wrong. He will feel smothered; he gets bored quickly and will eventually be trying to shake your neediness by losing you as quickly as he can.

What works: Try other ways to enrich your life with new knowledge and activities that you’ve never tried before. Your boredom will be the only thing lost and soon you will find passion in a great deal of things, and then he will be drawn to your passion of other things in life. He will be impressed by the new hobby or knowledge, and happiness is contagious, let him catch the fever!

Seduction mistake #2: Sleeping with him too soon. If you’ve been on a date or two with this new guy, and so far you don’t sense him feeling all the sparks you are, you can bet your bottom dollar that sex isn’t going to help – no matter how good you are in bed. Just because men love sex, doesn’t mean they fall in love with you because you can give it to him. In fact, the easier it comes, the less likely he is to want it again, so don’t be surprised if he doesn’t call after the first of second date if there’s sex involved. You shouldn’t be worried that he thinks you a prude, not for a second – On the contrary, if you sleep with him too soon, he will think this is common place for you, and won’t see you as a long-term partner. That’s really the nicest way I can put it.

What works: Find a way to put off sex until he is emotionally involved with you. Sex will then enhance his feelings towards you because he is already thinking of you as someone he would like to see romantically. Deny him in a way so that he won’t feel sexually rejected. End the date outside of either of your apartments. If you are being pursued in a sexual manner, saying something like, “I’m very attracted to you, but I don’t like to rush into things,” lets him know that you won’t deny him in the future, you find him sexy, but that you are a woman who has respect for herself and for her body. He will definitely appreciate that.

Seduction mistake #3: Projection. There he is, Mr. Right, except for facts One, Two and Three (like he’s married, lives a state away and has children). You’d be surprised how many women can ignore facts like this while they’re daydreaming about a long train on a fairy tale gown. Just because you imagine all the details so perfectly in your mind about his ringing your doorbell one day, whilst his car waits behind him, motor still running and packed to the brim with all his belongings, doesn’t mean it’s going to happen. Or maybe he’s the kind of guy who only sees you on some of the weekends because he’s got a part time job that you don’t really hear about. Just because you think he’s going to quit this job, and stop drinking during the week, doesn’t mean it will happen. In fact, he’s seeing three different women, he drinks because he’s an alcoholic, and he’s not going to change unless he’s actively making an effort already. These troubled men will not grow closer to you, they are a waste of your valuable time, and they never fall into the fantasy.

What works: Just keep a mental note of things that he may do that may be warning signs if it were a friends boyfriend. What advice would you give to her? Be a good friend to yourself and follow the advice. You’ll be thankful in the long run.

Seduction mistake #4: Chasing the man of your dreams. Remember this rule: If you chase him, he will run. That’s right. What works for the gander doesn’t always work for the goose. Isn’t it funny how men’s persistence eventually pays off? He calls and calls, and woos and woos, and while once you weren’t so interested, now he’s a staple in your life. Well don’t try this at home ladies. Calling him repeatedly, answering his messages the second you get in the door, buying him gifts, seeing him everyday, and asking him why he’s ignoring you, will only leave you empty handed. Ladies, I know you really like him and that you’re thinking about him all time; that if he likes you then why wouldn’t he want to hear the sound of your voice? But men just don’t work that way. It will take time. If you chase him, again he will feel smothered and will equate you with some midnight movie called, the “Temp” or the “Babysitter” or something. And keep in mind, that this mistake cannot be undone. Once he starts feeling overly pursued or smothered, he will only think about getting away from you, and you won’t be able to get him back. So write that down somewhere if you have to, and when you’re dying to call him, and leave that second message on his answering machine, perhaps you’ll get over the urge.

What works: Getting him to chase you: That’s right. Men love the chase. They want to think that all their efforts are going to finally pay off some day, the same way it does in work and sports and everything else they love. So try forgetting to return his last 2 messages, not being home on the weekends, turning him down for a date because you have to take care of something. He will just try harder, and the harder he tries, the more he will know that you’re worth it, or else why would he try so hard. You’ll have plenty of time to dote on him when he is deeply in love with you and when he appreciates every bit of your attention.

Seduction Mistake #5: Losing yourself. When people first start dating, they focus on the similarities, and naturally this brings them closer. Their increased closeness becomes grounds for increased time spent together, and the couple will mesh even more by attending the same functions, increasing exposure and overall time spent together. Ahhh, you can even finish each other sentences. But, what about the friends you used to be so close with? What about the activities you used to do with friends or even by yourself? Ever cancelled plans you made with a friend to spend time with him? If you find yourself doing it more frequently, you will start alienating the friends you used to have and hold dear, and then depend on him more and more. So, where do you end and he begins? If it’s getting harder and harder to tell, then you may soon have a problem on your hands – giving up your identity to be closer to him, will backfire in the long run.

When you’re willing to drop everything to be with him, he will come to expect enough that he knows he doesn’t need to accommodate you, because you are all too willing. The less effort he puts into the relationship the less important it becomes to him. And the less unique you are, the less interesting you become to him – that’s just human nature.

What works: Holding on to your identity is easy when you make a conscious effort. Don’t change your personality to get along with him. He likes you for who you are, or he doesn’t. If he doesn’t, move on quickly so you can spend more time with the person that does. Continue spending time with your friends and family, he will see you as a family oriented woman who is committed to things in life she cares about. Pursue your own activities and interests and don’t tell him every single detail. This time is for you. And remember, you two are a couple; that’s two people, not one. He doesn’t have to go to every single place or event that you go to. He’ll think about you when you’re gone, so let him ask you about it before you tell him.

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You’ve been dating him for a while, and you’re almost settling in as a true couple. Don’t settle in just yet… Here are a few things to keep you two more than just another couple. He’ll love you for it – for a long time to come.

Hold on to your own personal life: Hopefully you had your own life before you met him, so you’d better keep it when you have him. When couples spend large amounts of time together, they create a life together that consists of things you do together, share and will do in the future, but it’s important for your own personal growth that you maintain your own interests and activities. Your interests are what make you unique, and keep you from becoming a stagnant entity, which is what attracted him to you in the first place. He will love the fact that you are an independent person who will keep on challenging herself, and always have engaging interests. Make time for your friends as you did before you met him, make time for yourself, and don’t drag him to things he’s really not interesting in, like shoe shopping.

Keep flirting: Flirting isn’t just for the newly introduced and recently started dating. Flirting with your long term boyfriend reminds him that you’re still madly attracted to him, and that you will be in the future. It’s important to his ego and masculinity when he knows you find him sexy. It makes for a better sex life, which is another important aspect of long lasting couples. Remind him of the woman he fell head over heels for by giving him coy compliments when he calls you from his job. Overdress when he least expects (hint: wear something flirty in his favourite colour.) Drop sassy compliments any time, “hey sexy” is a nice start, or complimenting him on his style or appearance while wearing a sultry grin works just fine!

Mind those manners: When you first meet him you’re on your best behaviour and slowly without your even noticing, your manners tend to disintegrated until somewhere down the line, when you’re with him, you act as if you aren’t in front of company at all. Slipping into a too relaxed state is common, but remember that his continued company is worth minding yourself. Keep yourself aware as the relationship grows. Things like belching out loud, ignoring him when he comes home or when you are eating together, running out of patience quickly. Remember, he’s not your family until he puts the ring on your finger, don’t treat him like he’s always going to be around just because he always is.

On that same note, what are you doing with those rollers in your hair or the equivalent? Not going to the gym as much, forgetting the Listerine you used to use religiously? Fingernails just plain ragged? Well the girl who flirts with him at his work didn’t forget these details. Basically, it’s just not a good idea to let your appearance decline just because you’ve already got him. Taking good care of your health and looks will keep your appearance and esteem at a healthy level that you’ll both enjoy.

Boost his ego: He’s got a big one, and he’d like to keep it that way. When he first meets a woman, and he gets those silly feelings in his stomach that he can’t quite explain, and then he gets her attention and eventually her company it puts his ego on a high he wants to keep forever – let him have his way. This is one the most important things you can do to inspire him and keep him happy. His ego is tied to his dreams and his goals, so just dropping the odd compliment is not always good enough – anyone can do that. The best way to boost his ego is to show him that you believe in him and then let him talk openly about his goals in life and let him know that you believe that he can and will accomplish them.

Keep criticism at a constructive level, and temper it with a fair tone. He does expect, as well as respect, a fair amount of criticism, but be careful of your timing and tone. Critiquing him too much wears away at his temper and self-esteem, but a healthy dose of criticism reminds him that you care, that there’s room for improvement, and that he won’t be getting away with anything. But, the next time he leaves the toilet seat up, or the toothpaste cap off, maybe you could let it slide. Save your criticism for something a little more meaningful. He forgot an important date? Let him know how it made you feel. He really messed up, you warned him, and now he’s faced with the consequences, then you’ll want to wait until the pinnacle of his anger or hurt is over, to gently suggest that he can avoid the problem next time by <doing whatever>.

These five relationship anchors will keep him close to you, and make him appreciate you more everyday that he’s with you. He’s worth the time and the effort, and by following these principles you can keep him in love with you for years to come.

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Jealousy is a powerful emotion that few of us are resistant to. Men especially fall prey to this emotion, and it seldom benefits them. Some of us realize that our boyfriend’s jealous minds can sometimes lead to benefits we didn’t expect. Trying to recreate these benefits with the same man or even a different one may seem like a good idea. Who wouldn’t want the extra attention, or to invite our man to recognize how much he appreciates us?

But here’s the rub… The simple desire to bring him closer by playing on his insecurities can easily backfire. His fragile ego makes him more sensitive than he appears. Making him too jealous is the last thing you want – inevitably it leaves us worse off, leaving us further away from him, and may start a cycle of distrust.

So the question is, can jealousy be used in a positive way? Yes it can! It can help him realize how much he appreciates both you and his relationship with you. What you want to do is just start him thinking about you not being around as much, and even start him thinking that, without his appreciation, you may start looking for someone who will show you the appreciation you deserve.

Here’s how: The trick is subtlety! And of course this means that you start his mind moving based on thoughts, not actions!

For example: You and he always go out on Friday nights – you bicker over what to do, or end up seeing whatever the local cinema is playing. What does this mean to him?

She’ll be there, waiting for me to pick her up, I hope there’s a good action movie playing, or maybe she won’t want to go, and then I can hang out with the guys.

So this time when he calls on Friday you simply don’t pick up the phone, or when he calls you explain that you’d rather not go tonight there’s a book that you just can’t put down – and when he calls later that night (he will) you definitely don’t pick up the phone.

Of course when he catches up with you in a day or two and wonders where you’ve been over the weekend you were “just taking care of errands, hanging out with your girlfriends etc.” Meanwhile he was thinking all sorts of things we can’t even imagine.

Don’t bother to try and fuel his imagination by being coy or misleading. His imagination is already hard at work. Put his fears to rest or this is where the distrust starts. And of course never insinuate that it was all to give him a moment to be jealous. Let him suffer a little and act like you never even noticed, otherwise he will feel you are trying to play games with him and that you got the best of him.

Some other examples include:

• Stop checking your messages in front of him
• Not mentioning every single place you went that day or that week – Wait until he asks
• Getting someone to make eye contact with you, and respond to you, without letting your man seeing you initiate this contact… He’ll just see someone staring at you
• Have a friend mention that someone (male of course) was asking about you

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One of the most important things you can do in any relationship is adjusting your listening style. It will change the way your man relates to you almost instantly. Have an actively listening style, and get him to talk to you about things he rarely gets to talk about at length. What you really want is for him to feel perfectly safe telling you almost anything.

Here’s why: The more you listen to him, the more he will open up. When you let him open up to you, you accomplish several results. By allowing uncritical listening, you allow him to feel extremely comfortable around you; and helping your prospective mate feel comfortable is one the most important things you can do, since you will have him to want to be around you often.

Plus there is another effect: It’s called transference, and is a powerful phenomenon. You might associate Sigmund Freud with this term or have memories from a Psychology class. Sigmund Freud coined the term and studied its effects at length after so many patients confessed their love to him during therapy. Freud ended up putting a screen between himself and his patients, but it didn’t help. Several types of professionals experience this all too common phenomenon today.

This happens for a few reasons: Unburdening themselves was pleasurable for patients in therapy because it alleviated stress, but more importantly it was the “transference of affection”. As your partner is exposing his personal history, thoughts, actions and desires, the affection he holds for these is being transferred to you, the listener. So, in the same way that Therapists, Counsellors, Clergymen and other professional who spend a lot of time listening uncritically find themselves the object of much affection, you too can use this principle to make a substantial and positive effect on his feelings towards you.

The term transference actually refers to transference of feelings. And by talking about life’s activities that produce heartfelt emotion, the feeling is transferred from some past event to the present. You are both the catalyst and the present entity, while this transference of emotion takes place, and the feelings become associated to you. Similarly, when men talk about a very pleasant subject (namely themselves) the affection for that subject then transfers to the catalyst once again, thus translating into more love for you. Just by listening to him, you can open up his affection for you, and keep it. Make no mistake about it, he needs someone who he can talk to, and you want to be the one.

Here’s how to make it work for you: Begin your uncritical listening by asking open-ended questions. These are questions that are not easily answered with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Start with questions that are related to current situations in his life that you sense he is interested in. If you barely know him, this will be the easiest way to get him talking. Once he gets used to talking, start with asking him open-ended questions about his childhood, his parents, how he feels about his job and the people he’s close to. Try to mention the questions casually so that he doesn’t feel investigated, as he is not used to people being so interested and listening so intently. The fact that he is not used to this, is a benefit because it creates a uniquely satisfying interaction that he wants and needs, but it may take time before he is able to really talk openly about his feelings.

For instance, you walk by a house and say, “wow that house is so similar to mine, it reminds me of being five years old.” What was your house like when you were five? When he answers, don’t rush to comment. Make it clear that you are listening but don’t try to liken the situation to yours, your main purpose now is to get him to keep talking. Even if he answers with short answers at first, just keep listening, and he will start talking more. These are the type of questions that are good to get him to talk:

• Who are his favourite relatives?
• Why or when did he first think of becoming <whatever his occupation is>?
• What are some of the things he is proudest of in his life?
• Why are these accomplishments?
• What was he like as a little boy?
• How did he get along with his siblings?

Well, you get the idea. Everyone likes to talk about his or herself. That’s just human nature. By being the one he knows he can talk to, you make yourself an important part of his life.

Start today and see what happens. You will love the results.

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Some men have a reputation that you would rather not know about – he’s known to some as a player. But there’s a lot more to him than that, or so you hope. Can you ever get this guy to settle down? After all, studies show that men in relationships are happier and better adjusted, so really you’d both be better off, right? Well, he may not see things that way, so what can you do? Here’s a few ways to catch and tame the playboy that will help you both find happiness.

Have you ever known anyone in this type of situation? When Steven met Laura he decided she was definitely someone he could finally be with exclusively. And while it wasn’t the first time he had felt this way, for some reason or another, things just never worked out the way he imagined they would. He saw Laura repeatedly for about a month or two and the relationship started waning, before long he was back to his usual self and other women were in his sights. Laura knew of his reputation, but he seemed very serious about her and he even told her so. But neither of them saw their relationship blossom into what they each had hoped. Hypersensitive to her man’s past of playing the field, Laura tried to keep her man in constant check, letting him know at all times she would not accept any sort of philandering. His reaction was immediate instant confirmation that it’s better to love ‘em and move on. This is an unfortunate example of a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The first step in keeping a non-commitment type is to date him with the confidence that he’s all yours, even if you’re afraid he might not be. He will feel a kind of freedom he’s never felt before and feel comfortable with the knowledge that she’s not trying to turn him into something other than what he is. And during the time he spends free from anticipation of whatever it is he’s so scared of, he is emotionally available to enjoy the benefits of a long term, monogamous relationship.

But there’s more to it than that. There’s something else that he’s worried about or protecting himself from. It may take a little time to identify why it is that he feels he is better off a playboy, when the truth is that he probably is not. There are a few reasons why many men follow this kind of lifestyle, and putting his fears to rest will help him commit. Here are some examples:

• He was burned in the past. This is more common than you think; which is why this may even sound trite. But when men put a large part of their heart out on a limb, and then ended up crushed, he may not want to put himself in that position again. There are a few ways to try to get him to see that you are not the one that is going to hurt him – Tell him – If he ever mentions the ex-girlfriend incident, let him talk it out. Ask him questions, and don’t criticize him. Don’t criticize her either, but let him know where you agree with him.

• Another common reason men tend to play the field is the fear of the relationship quickly falling into a rut. They love the beginnings of a relationship just as we all do. The chase, the catch, the nervousness and the giggles; but when the relationship starts to plateau, he is looking for that thrill again. And the way he gets it? Hanging out with other prospects. The solution to this dilemma is straightforward. Keep the relationship fresh and you will both be beyond satisfied. Start by keeping some space and time between you. Hanging out with each other every moment of the day and night might make sense at the pinnacle of your affection for each other, but too much of a good thing can easily turn the tables. A little time apart will definitely help the heart grow fonder. Keep things exciting by taking the time to plan dates that aren’t the norm, something new to you one day, and then something new to him the next. Try something with a little adventure to it to keep his heart at a higher rate when he’s with you, a trip to the closest adventure theme park or a moving play is always a winner.

• He could be a proponent of the bettering principle: A person who likes what they have, but is always trying to get something better. For a man who believes that there’s always something better, life is really a constant struggle. They change jobs quickly, they are quick to change their minds for fear of losing out on the right thing, and frequently end up losing a good thing. Ugh. If that’s the guy, um… trust me, he’s going through more suffering than you ever will over him. If he doesn’t think you’re the best, then move on, and move on quickly so you don’t have to be bothered wasting your time.

Finding out why he is not able to settle into a quality relationship may be harder than attributing the problem to a commonality. It may be just part of who he is, or a part of his past that he is not willing to talk about. Either way, the only thing you can do is try to understand more about him before you act. Listen to how he talks about people around him, and in his life. How does he handle any kind of permanency, like jobs, or homes? Just by understanding the problem, a solution can present itself in an obvious way. And the solution itself may just be your understanding. He may feel that he hasn’t met someone who has taken the time to understand who he is as an individual, and that she is just with her next boyfriend. Let him know you are taking time to understand who is he and he will not be looking any further.

With a man who fears commitment, the worst thing you can do is try to force intimacy onto him. Asking him if he loves you, constantly inquiring about who he’s hanging out with and making him feel guilty if he didn’t call you etc. will instantly set his sensitive alarms off. Enjoy living for yourself first and he won’t be worried that you’re a woman who depends on him for her social and emotional existence.

It’s wise to take time before becoming intimate with someone who has a reputation for playing the field, after all, there’s a reason for that reputation. Not only has he probably been intimate with a number of women, but he may not place the same value on intimacy as you do. Having sex too early on may bring you emotionally closer to him, but he may see the relationship as more sexual and less romantic.

Keep in mind that not every player can be tamed and know that just because you want him, doesn’t mean it will work. With a veteran player, he really may not be able or willing to change. And if that’s the case, it’s probably in your best interest to move on – and quickly before you become too emotionally involved with someone who is unable to reciprocate.

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If you plan on seducing a man to have all for your very own, first you’ve got to find one worthy of your time, attention and seduction skills. If you already have someone in your sights, then consider yourself lucky. If there’s no one on your mind right now, it’s going to take more than just luck.

Fortunately, it’s not as hard as you think; it just comes down to playing the numbers game – meet as many people as you can in 30 days and your prospects are much higher than if you continue as is. We’ve all heard the same advice before, and frankly it’s just not getting anyone anywhere. But, take a new spin on the old advice and you’ll find yourself with plenty of choice.

Old advice: The Library – Oh please; it’s quiet, it’s stale and the only person you’re ever going to meet there is a Librarian.

Better advice: Hey, now there’s an idea, go for the Librarian. Employees in any people related service job are just waiting for you to walk over and talk to them. Wherever you go, Bookstore, Bike shop, Coffee shop, there’s bound to be plenty of helpful, knowledgeable men who are easy to talk to because you always have an excuse. Furthermore, you have a good chance of repeated contact with this man because you have an excuse to frequent his store. And it’s repeated exposure that increases a person’s chances of getting a date with the one she wants. Go shopping this week, and bring a really big basket – who knows what you’ll find.

Old Advice: Bars – Only if you want to spend your Saturday nights watching your man on the couch with a beer in his hand, while you bring him chips and dips.

Better advice: Take a bartending class. They’re choc full of better than average looking young men with great confidence and social skills. Repeated exposure, close contact, and the excitement of learning something new will definitely give you a great chance of meeting someone you like who you’ll instantly have something in common with. And, if you don’t meet him there, getting a job as a female bartender will get you more dates than ever.

Old Advice: The Supermarket – Oh c’mon. Cooking class? Maybe if you want to meet a woman or a gay man.

Better Advice: Restaurant managers, Owners and Chefs are great catches. Go to one new restaurant every week for 6 – 8 weeks and ask to meet the Manager so you can compliment him, the Chef or the Waiter. They’ll want to know your name, and they will remember you next time you come in. An Owner takes pride in his restaurant and will appreciate a lovely woman’s compliment of his establishment. You both live in the same neighbourhood, you both love food and you can see him as often as you like. He’ll be giving you special treatment from day one.

Old Advice: On the Job – Well, maybe no one really advises that in particular, but it happens more and more often. If you’re really serious about your job, this may not be the best bet.

Better Advice: A part time job anywhere in the service industry (Retail, Restaurants etc.) or anywhere else where there are loads of people will introduce you to hundreds of men that are either your co-workers or friendly neighbourhood men who need your assistance. Besides, with the extra money, you can treat yourself to an irresistible outfit.

Other places: Personal finance classes, conventions, vacations, exercise classes, music festivals and your friend’s parties.

Whatever you do, just make your mind up to get out there and meet more people. Take a different route home, accept invitations to everything during a designated month, find new interests and new people will follow – There are loads of ways to get more people into your life, but the most important thing is that you make sure you do it. Playing the numbers game works, and when you meet that special guy, you’ll think to yourself “what if I hadn’t done <whatever you tried>, I would never have met him.”

Posted by Rosie as Philosophy at 12:26 AM GMT

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