Moscow is full of smart sexy women and they particularly like westerners. Outside of Moscow, there are very few good economic opportunities in Russia, particularly for women. In fact, the environment they live in is rather harsh, and it has led them to some very different behavioural adaptations and psychologies. Many of them aggressively pursue marriage with westerners, and thousands of them sign up to be mail order brides as a way out of their harsh environment.

There is nothing terribly new or even unusual about women using their ‘sexuality‘ or childbearing resources in exchange for other resources to improve their position in life. In fact, males do it too sometimes. The behaviour is as old as sex itself, nor is it unique to humans, but can be seen in many species. For hundreds of years and in many societies, arranged marriages were the norm. At its most basic these arrangements allow financially wealthy males to ‘obtain’ a sexual or childbearing partner in return for assuring the economic security of the woman (as terrible as that may sound). Arranged marriages are still common today in some cultures. The primary difference here is that in previous times the woman rarely had any choice in the matter. While we often claim it offends our ‘civilized’ sensibilities, functionally, the behaviour is no different than a stay at home wife, or teenage girls getting free drinks from hopeful male suitors in a bar in New Jersey.

If it looks on the surface as if western men are doing the exploiting, that is a distorted view of the situation in Russia. For the most part these are smart, savvy women. They are making their own decisions and doing the best they can to improve a difficult situation. They are using the best tools they have available to them, and they do so with their eyes wide open.

So aside from improving the economy and insisting that all Russian men change the way they treat women, another alternative is to distance oneself morally, which does not help them at all. In any case, Russian women know that the best thing that can happen to them is lots of western men. This will not only help many of them to find a way out, but the influx of the western male perspective should improve the way they are viewed and treated. After all most western Europeans have been trained and socialized from birth to treat women quite differently. If nothing else, the presence of western male mating ‘options’ cannot help but improve their negotiating position with Russian men, and be a positive force for change in a society where attitudes are long overdue for it.

Ok, so having established the moral high ground; if you visit Moscow, or at least Russia, you will be surprised how undemanding and open-minded Moscovite women are compared to their western counterparts. Russian women, in general, are more open about sexuality, for example. ‘Ménage a trois‘ and other experimentation are relatively common. They don’t really treat sex with the same reverence we do in America. Also in Moscow, the lines between girlfriends, mistresses, and hookers, seem to get a little fuzzy at times. There are a lot of ‘part-timers’. Predictably, Russian women seem to expect less of men than western women. A little sensitivity and affection can also go a long way if you find a woman that doesn’t think of it as a weakness. Outside of Moscow, such differences are even more pronounced.

You can also have some great fun in ways that no western woman would tolerate. Take Russian paintball… You play this game with five guys and ten girls. The guys each get their own paintball gun (usually a semi-automatic) and their own uniquely coloured paint. The girls dress in bright clothes and set off into the forest five minutes ahead of the guys, each with their own paintball mask.

For those of you who don’t know the rules of hunting, if you shoot it, you can keep it.

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