A man’s desire for different sexual partners, and for frequent sexual activity, is a natural, instinctive, biological drive. It has been a highly desirable and successful attribute in our species. It must also have been a great evolutionary strategy too (otherwise it wouldn’t be so prevalent). Men that did not possess a strong sex drive might typically not have passed on their genes to subsequent generations. So, what we see in the gene pool today are mostly instinctively strong sexual drives, and behaviours that have been so successful throughout man’s evolution that they are characteristic of virtually all males.
It turns out that most women do not walk around all day ready to have sex at the drop of a hat like we do. Many women are ‘not receptive’ to sexual advances most of the time and have to be switched on. So what triggers a woman’s sexual receptivity, you ask? It’s usually a combination of factors, one of the most important being male lust.
Most women are highly sensitive to desire in men. Men behave differently, or talk differently, or give off pheromones, and women can sense it. Either they feel it, smell it, or catch you looking when you shouldn’t. Probably they know it’s there because the chemistry of your attraction affects their chemistry too, part of that “woman’s intuition” thing. If you don’t think this is true, try to hide your attraction from a woman who really turns you on. It’s hard if you are around her a lot. And if she doesn’t know, her sexual receptivity can be triggered anyway, without her knowing how, or why.
That is not to say that all male lust will turn a woman on, or even that male lust is always necessary. But it can exert a powerful effect on a woman’s chemistry in combination with the right mix of other factors. Because male lust affects women’s chemistry and can help to trigger sexual receptivity, it can be one of the most important assets in a man’s seduction toolbox. This is one of the reasons why it’s a good idea for you to maintain a high sex drive.
This is why the movement in the late 80’s to implement Seduction rules on many student campuses, to deal with date rape issues were so lame. These proposed “rules of conduct” would have taken away one of the most important catalysts in female sexual chemistry and consequently male/female bonding. Most women know this at a gut level. Some women light up when guys come on to them, and seem to want lots of horny guys paying attention to them, even if they are not interested in any of them. They just enjoy being switched on, but they need the horny guys to make it happen.
It is therefore a males “job” to be horny to assist in triggering female receptivity and to initiate the possibility of sexual activity. Because the presence of a strong male sex drive is an important initial catalyst in triggering a women’s sexual receptivity, it is also important for male-female bonding and for that relationship in our species. A strong female sex drive is not needed to trigger male receptivity and is therefore less critical. So guys, cultivate a strong sex drive, it is good for your relationships too.
Posted by Scott in Sociobiology, Sociology